Whatever words we utter should be chosen with care for people will hear them and be influenced by them for good or ill. ~ Buddha
The way we speak, the way we behave with others, be it at home, workplace or anywhere, reflect a lot about ourselves. Our words reflect our attitude, personality, etc. Many a time, we don't think what we want to say, we don't even ponder for a second what influence (good or bad) our words can have on others. So, choose your words wisely while communicating. This is because our words have the power to influence and affect a person or situation. Words be they written or spoken have a forceful effect, and propel us through life. They can be encouraging or discouraging. Words chosen with sensitivity can have a positive impact on a person, whereas inappropriate use of words can spoil relationships for reasons more than one. Such is the power of words, that they can make or mar relationships, build or break us. They can lift our morale, pull us down, hurt our feelings immensely, or even comfort us when we feel low.
As said by Dorothy Nevill, "The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing at the right time, but to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment." Needless to say, the words that come out of our mouth is extremely important. Wrong choice of words while communicating with others can either harm or hurt the feelings of a person or you can even end up making a fool of yourself. It is said that, "Silence is Golden". Sometimes it's better to 'not' say something than being insensitive and just snapping at someone. We should always remember, that words once spoken can never be 'unsaid'. They will haunt the other person's mind, and affect him or her. Sometimes the damage caused is so much that no matter how much we try, we cannot undo what has been said.
But how many of us are sensitive towards others emotions and feelings? If we face a situation like this where our words have hurt someone, do we give it a thought, "I should have put my words correctly" or even try to put ourselves in the other person's shoes or at least pondered, "Why did he or she get hurt?" The other side is, how many of us have tried to apologize saying, "I didn't mean to hurt you, I am sorry". We hardly come across someone like that, right? This is because of our ego, our biggest possession. Why should I say sorry? I agree that sometimes our anger, revenge or jealousy speak for us. But who suffers at the end? "WE".
One of my school teachers used to say that 'we can cheat everyone, but not our conscience'. But I sometimes ask myself, is it true that our inner self pricks us for all wrongdoings, not allowing us to be at peace?!? Because if this was true, we would all have been in peace and the world would have definitely been a better place to live in. If we believe in ourselves, if we are aware of what we do and say, only then can we talk about being true to our conscience, otherwise we can forget it, by saying it's just an illusion.
So let us watch the way we behave and talk. Let the power of our words be the beautiful expression of our inner self, for none of us would want to lose everything for 'words spoken without sensitivity and thinking'. Always remember, "We cannot demand respect, we have to earn it".