"To posit that there might be some changeless state of final attainment, whether through the acquisition of fame or money, or being able to make all of one's own life choices without acceding to external compulsion, is deeply misleading. We would do better to remember that it is in the nature of unhappiness only to be changeless, and to see happiness as an intermittent state -- sometimes expected, most often not -- that deepens the textures of present life, rather than being a final destination in which, once arrived at, we will surely plan to stay. ~ Stuart Walton
The pursuit of happiness is a never ending quest for human beings. In every endeavor that we take, somewhere, deep down into our hearts, we aspire for happiness. Happiness is a feeling of enhanced well-being and a sense of satisfaction in living life.
For some people who're stuck in their relationships with no joy, being unhappy with life becomes a daily affair. Some others may be in a marriage that is on verge of breakage, that surely is a reason for unhappiness and irritability in life. Usually, we're happy when everything in our life is going well however, when problems pop up, unhappiness creeps in, eroding our mental peace. If you're not happy with your life (we all are, at times) then, you've got to give a thought about reasons that are plaguing your mind. Being constantly disgruntled with your life and what it has offered you, often leads to depression in life. No matter what are the reasons for your unhappines, eliminating those reasons can only lead to happiness.
What to do When Unhappy With Life
It is not always possible to be happy but we can try our level best to maintain some balance and find something positive in every situation. Remember, every cloud has a silver lining! A sad life can be transformed into a happy life, provided, the individual shows patience and alacrity to deal with issues.
Cut the Roots of the Problem
Set aside some hours during the day, when you'll spend time pondering over issues that are seriously affecting your quality of life. Find the root cause of your problem, that is causing unhappiness in your life. In fact, if you can write your problems on a piece of paper, you'll automatically see, that you'll stand in a better chance to get solutions for them. Or better, focus on them with an unbiased and rational way. Generally, it happens that we go round in circles of thoughts without getting to any solution for some problem. So best thing is to write how you feel and write all reasons in points for your unhappiness. Try it once at least. You'll find that the problems for which you were worrying too much becomes crystal clear and the mind is uncluttered. Then, you can sit calmly and try to eliminate all the reasons that are distorting your true sense of happiness.
Make a Plan of Action
After you've listed your reasons for being unhappy with life, you can chalk out an action plan for turning your unhappiness into happiness. You know what are the things that are letting you down. Now, get up, face the facts and muster your courage to handle each issue at a time. This will help you to gain confidence and also eliminate all problems. Fight each part of your unhappiness and vouch to eliminate them. Steadily, you'll develop a list of things to make you happy. You'll be surprised that slowly, you're on your own discovering things that make you aware of simple steps to remain happy in life. Read books, talk to friends, work harder, invest in building everlasting relationships and slowly, you'll develop some wonderful ways to eliminate your unhappiness.
A major flaw in our educational system is that we aren't taught how to be happy. We are equipped with knowledge and are made competent enough to face the world. Somewhere, in the rat race we've given external factors a lot of gravity when it comes to the question of being happy. However, happiness is something that can be created in the very present, in the very now! If you're unhappy, go, try to make someone happy. It may sound weird and annoying. However, if you help someone to share their burden, it automatically makes you happy. Cheer others to cheer yourself! Happiness is contagious, just like laughter! Counter attack unhappiness by creating happiness. Isn't it a choice? Why not try this method and see how you feel.
Quotes about happiness can also boost your morale and give you beautiful insights about life. Lastly, I would like to conclude with a beautiful quote by Albert Camus, When you have once seen the glow of happiness on the face of a beloved person, you know that a man can have no vocation but to awaken that light on the faces surrounding him; and you are torn by the thought of the unhappiness and night you cast, by the mere fact of living, in the hearts you encounter.