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A Four Step Guide to Feeling Positive

The trend lately has been to think positive, practice the law of attraction, and then, good things will come, as if by magic. However, for many of you, you find it is not that simple. And then, when the things you want don't manifest, you get frustrated. What you need to do, is change your feelings.
I'm amazed at how quickly I've been able to master this. Just as quick as I, you'll be able to master it, too.

The trend lately has been to think positive, practice the Law of Attraction, and then, good things will come, as if by magic. However, for many of you, you find it is not that simple. And then, when the things you want don't manifest, you get frustrated. You wonder what you are doing wrong.

The law of attraction is not just thinking good thoughts. If it really were that simple, you'd be able to easily manifest the things you want in your life. Even more important than your thoughts are your feelings. Your feelings are the true indicator of your alignment with the energy around you.

If you are feeling depressed, angry, resentful, or any other negative emotion, you are not in alignment with the positive energy that will bring you what you really want. It doesn't matter how positive you think. If you aren't feeling happy, excited, joyful, or any other positive emotion, you won't attract anything except more of the same. You have to align your feelings with your thoughts. They both must be positive, no exceptions.

I've learned that you need to change your feelings and keep them flowing in a positive direction, before you think your positive thoughts. Here are the simple steps you can take to change your feelings.

First, ask yourself, at the exact moment you first feel it, why you are feeling the negative emotion. This is important because it will allow you to more quickly intercept your negative feeling so that you can replace it with a positive one. The sooner this is done, the sooner you can turn around your situation. The longer the negative emotions linger, the more you'll experience negative events.

Typically, a thought or something you hear will trigger a negative feeling inside of you. As soon as you feel that emotion, the next step, after determining its cause, is to change your feelings about the subject in a way that pleases you. This will prove to be hard for some of you because you've been focusing mostly on what you don't want. It can take practice before you are able to easily find something good to think about anything.

Here is an example. You are fired from your job and have to find a new one. In the meantime, you can collect unemployment benefits. You might normally think things like, "I can't believe my boss would just fire me like that, after all that I've sacrificed for the company. I worked my butt off and this is how they repay me! What a - (insert vulgar language here)!"

Instead, you can think of it in more positive light. The more positive things you think (and say) about your seemingly negative situation, the better you will start to feel. "I'm grateful to have had the opportunity to work for them for as long as I did. It allowed me to gain some great experience that will look good on my resume. I've really been thinking about changing to a career that is more in line with my values, so this is the perfect time for me to choose a job that I will really love."

The third step is to allow yourself to feel the positive emotions that your positive thoughts will bring. Feel your body decompress as it eases tension you were previously holding. Then, every time you think about your situation, repeat in your mind any or all the positive thoughts you had previously.

Consistency is the key, and the fourth step. You can't just think positive about it on one occasion and then, the next time the topic comes up, go back to negative thoughts. In other words, it has to be a permanent mind shift on the topic. Additionally, you'll need to practice speaking positively about the topic as well. Think before you speak and be sure the words you are going to say will reflect and make you feel positive.

Remember, your feelings are the most important thing here. You have to allow yourself to release whatever negative emotion you've attached to certain areas of your life, and replace them with good feelings. With practice, and time, you'll be able to easily master this thought shift process. One day, you'll find it has become a habit and you will rarely have to actively watch every thought or word that comes to mind.

Recap: First, identify why and what is causing you to feel how you feel. Second, shift your thoughts to more positive ones. Third, allow yourself to feel the positive emotions that will naturally embrace you once you've replaced bad thoughts with good ones. And finally, consistently feel those same positive feelings about the topic.
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Published: 10/1/2011
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