Groom's Responsibilities for a Wedding

Knowledge of the groom's responsibilities for a wedding will help in allaying all your confusion regarding how, when, and whether to help your partner in planning the wedding. Read on.
In the good old days (at least for men), the entire financial burden of the wedding ceremony and the wedding reception used to be borne by the bride and her family. But now, things are changing. In contemporary weddings, everyone - bride, her parents, groom, his parents contribute financially for the wedding. And it's not just the financial part in which the groom and his family has to chip in, but the entire planning, budgeting, and decor of the wedding in which they have to contribute in some way or the other. So, what are these responsibilities in today's weddings? How can the groom help the bride in planning the wedding? What responsibilities should the parents of the groom handle? Let's find out.

Wedding Roles and Responsibilities of Groom

The first thing that a groom has to do is to prepare the guest list and give it to the bride at least three to four months prior to the wedding so that the venue booking and other arrangements can accordingly be made. Besides this, there are a number of things for which a groom is solely responsible. Below is a complete groom wedding checklist.
  • Plan the honeymoon and pay for it. See to it that all the required travel documents are in place. Also, obtain the traveler's checks needed for the honeymoon.
  • Buy the wedding ring, engagement ring as well as the wedding gift for the bride.
  • Help the bride in planning and organizing the wedding ceremony.
  • Purchase or rent his wedding attire as well as choose the attire for the female bridal party.
  • Some payments that should be made by the groom for the ceremony are - payment to musicians, officiate, payment for bridal bouquet, payment for wedding flowers such as boutonnieres and corsage at the wedding party.
Wedding Duties of Bride and Groom

There are some things on which both the bride and the groom should work together. Planning the wedding budget is one such thing. The parents should be consulted too, in case they have offered to contribute to the wedding. Besides the budget, planning the wedding, right from the theme, decor, date, timing, wedding catering, kind of reception to the number of guests and the kind and place of ceremony, should be decided jointly by the bride and the groom. The reservations for the venue and other things should be made as soon as possible.

Wedding invitations, gifts for bridesmaids and groomsmen and gifts for parents, should be decided and purchased by the couple together. Some official works such as obtaining the marriage license, meeting the wedding officiate or going in for premarital counseling should be done jointly too.

Responsibilities of the Groom's Parents

If the parents have decided to contribute and assist in the wedding, which is good wedding etiquette, then there are a number of things that they can do to help the bride and the groom in planning the wedding ceremony. Both the father and the mother of the groom can help in compiling the guest list. The father can help the groom in choosing his wedding attire or attire for the male bridal party. The mother of the groom responsibilities include selecting her attire which is similar in color and style to that of the bride's mother.

Parents of the groom can offer to pay and host the rehearsal dinner or alternately they can offer to pay for all the beverages at the reception. Reservations in hotels for all out station guests who are invited from the groom's side, should be done by the groom's parents. And finally, the parents should arrive at least one hour before the wedding ceremony is scheduled.

There is no hard and fast rule that only a particular person should do a specific job. Anybody who has the means, capability and willingness can offer to assist in anything. Still, if the responsibilities are divided in the beginning and everybody is clear on what he or she has to do, it will help in planning, organizing and conducting the wedding smoothly.
By Aastha Dogra
Published: 6/15/2010
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