How to Know if Someone is Lying

Everyone has lied at some point or the other, and not all lies are malicious and harmful in nature. But things get messy when one has to deal with a serial liar. This article will help you determine when you are being lied to.
There are many people who are serial liars about information related to their work, their lives, their affairs and many other things, and if you have to deal with someone like this, then you need to educate yourself about the signs to catch a liar. Compulsive lying is a very real phenomena in the world today, and you should know how to deal with it.

There are many ways this can benefit you, the primary being that you will not be cheated. You can get yourself out of many sticky situations, especially if you happen to be a gullible person who gets swayed easily by people. The best way to know is by reading their body language. They may appear nervous and they may hesitate to maintain eye contact with you, and it does not get clearer than this.

Identifying a Liar

Here are some commonly seen signs of a liar, and a mixture of these signs can assure that something is amiss. Note that you must not jump to conclusions at the mere appearance of one or a few of these signs.
  • When a person is lying, he/she tends to talk very fast and tries to complete the conversation as soon as possible. If you notice unmistakable signs that the person is constantly trying to rush through a conversation, then he/she may possibly be lying.
  • Another indicator is the tendency of a person to try to confuse you while talking. If he/she is constantly contradicting himself, then he/she is definitely lying to you about something.
  • As mentioned above, body language can provide you with great insight. You can be sure that the person is lying if he/she is constantly shifting their feet, are sweating slightly, refuse to maintain eye contact, appear nervous, get defensive easily and always have their hands in their pocket.
  • If there is excessive friendliness or laughter from that person, which may be slightly uncharacteristic of them, you should start suspecting something.
  • Lies normally come out at the spur of the moment, so the individual may not have the presence of mind to tell you all the details. So if they appear confused and unable to give you details, then you might be dealing with a compulsive liar.
  • Another way to catch someone lying is to listen to their speech and voice carefully. If he/she is displaying disparity in their voice and tone, then it is happening for a reason. To learn to know if someone is lying, you need to pay attention to the minutest of details.
  • Also, if you notice that the individual suddenly becomes more relaxed when you change the subject and start talking about something else, then it may be because they were lying about something.
You should remember that all these signs are merely general guidelines on how to tell if someone is lying to you, they are not rules. If you notice any of these signs in a certain individual regularly, then you can start suspecting something. But you should not be paranoid and suspect anything a person tells you all the time. Learning how to spot a liar is something that is acquired over time, and not overnight.

You need to try to understand why they are telling you these lies. Here are some common reasons why people tell lies.
  • To hide information about something they did wrong.
  • To hide information that may harm or hurt you.
  • To make excuses about something they were supposed to do, but did not do.
  • To try to cover up for an earlier lie.
  • To hide something because they are ashamed of it.
  • To avoid doing something that he/she does not want to do.
  • Because he/she is simply a pathological liar.
If you are in a relationship with a liar, things can get a little messy. You must learn about cheating as well, because this can save you a lot of heartache in the future. These signs of cheating spouse will also help you know if your partner is lying about cheating on you. You must remember that not all lies are wrong, and that some lies are essential. It certainly helps to learn this, but sometimes, ignorance is bliss.
By Rahul Thadani
Published: 7/5/2010
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