Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
~ Kahlil Gibran
Wedlock symbolizes not an austere bond but a willingly pledged promise of love and togetherness. The near and dear ones always grace weddings and the couple promises to love, respect and support each other unconditionally in everyone's presence. Wedding vows are ways to express the love, excitement and commitment that the couples feel towards each other. Wedding vows need not always be fancy and ornamental, but rather straight, simple and genuine.
How to Write Your Wedding Vows
Wedding vows can embrace many emotions including, love, joy, humor, honesty and so on. While you write your vows, all you need to do is pick the right words, which will convey the exact feelings to your partner. Many times, people find this task a bit intimidating. Many religions require the bride and groom to use the traditional set of wedding vows. However nowadays, many of the couples want to personalize their vows and word their feelings in a way that they want. So in case you are planning to write your own vows, you need to talk to your ceremony officiant and find out if you can incorporate this into the wedding ceremony. There also exits a golden mean wherein the couples recite the traditional vows, which are then followed by their own.
Writing you own vows is always better than hiring someone to write them for your or plainly picking up sentences from a book or a website. A little bit of help is allowed though! Vows are a simple way for the couple to express their love, respect, and commitment towards each other. There are people who are naturally gifted with the ability to say the right words at the right time, without any prior preparations. However, even if you are one of these people, remember that weddings are not the time to display your oratory skills and hence a little bit of preparation beforehand will ensure you say everything you want to in a perfect manner. Writing down a brief outline or the entire wedding vows verbatim might be a good idea.
Many times, when people start writing their vows there are instances where they feel stuck, and face a block. If this is happening to you, do not panic. Follow this simple trick. Close your eyes and recollect all your fond memories with your partner. Think of your first date, your first kiss and so on. Now try to remember the way you felt when you were with your partner and remember the moment when you decided you wanted to get married. Now open your eyes and write down everything that you just thought about. You need not use big words and flowery language, just stick to simple words and express yourself.
As you begin to write your vows, think of it as a conversation with your partner and jot down the thoughts as they flow from your mind. Do not make your vows too lengthy. Keep them short and sweet. Some people might frown upon it but there are couples that incorporate an element of humor in their wedding vows, which can be fun if taken in the right spirit by everyone. In case you need some inspiration, incorporate beautiful poetry verses or literary quotes. Often while reading great writers' works we feel that the lines have managed to capture the exact emotions that we have in mind. Do not hesitate to use such lines in your vows.
Traditional or personalized, no matter which type of vows, you've finalized, make sure to practice you vows in order to avoid any gaffe at the wedding ceremony. Although some couples carry their written wedding vows while then reading it out aloud from a paper, it is always more romantic to say the words without referring to any notes. Rehearse your vows adequately so that when you walk down the aisle and face your would-be-spouse, you can look into each other's eyes and say the right things with the perfect words, as your family and friends shower you with good luck and blessings on this wonderful occasion.